Death Of A Beloved

Take the chance to feel death

When you go and sit by the side of your dying beloved, feel sorry for yourself. You are in the same boat, in the same plight. Death will knock on your door any day. Be ready. Before death comes, find the bull. Before death knocks, come back home. You should not be caught in the middle; otherwise this whole life disappears like a dream, and you are left in tremendous poverty, inner poverty.

Life energy knows no death

The search for the bull is the search for the energy, the eternal energy, the very dynamic energy, of life. It knows no death. It passes through many deaths. Each death is a door for a new formation. Each death is a cleansing. Each death is an unburdening. Each death simply relieves you of the old.

Life, real life, never dies. Then who dies? You die. The 'I' dies, the ego dies. Ego is part of death; life is not. So if you can be egoless, then there is no death for you. If you can drop the ego consciously, you have conquered death. And in the search for the bull, the only thing that has to be done is to drop the ego by and by. If you are really aware, you can drop it in a single step. If you are not so much aware, you will have to drop it gradually. That depends on you. But one thing is certain: the ego has to be dropped. With the disappearance of the ego, death disappears. With the dropping of the ego, death is also dropped.

Out of helplessness awareness arises

So go and sit by the side of your beloved. Soon she will disappear. Don't feel sorry for her -- feel sorry for yourself. Let death surround you. Have the taste of it. Feel helpless, impotent. Who is feeling helpless, and who is feeling impotent? The ego -- because you see you cannot do anything. You would like to help her and you cannot. You would like her to survive, but nothing can be done. Feel this impotence as deeply as possible.

And out of this helplessness, a certain awareness, a prayerfulness, a meditation, will arise. Use her death -- it is an opportunity. Be by her side. Sit silently. Meditate. Let her death become a pointer to you, so that you don't go on wasting your life. The same is going to happen to you.

Osho, excerpted from The Search

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Osho book recommendations

And Now, And Here: On Death, Dying and Past Lives

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In this quote of Osho on death you can find a support if a beloved friend is dying. The death of a beloved is a great chance for awareness and meditation. Out of helplessness a certain prayerfulness, a meditation, will arise. When a beloved is dying sit silently next to him or her and see that the same is going to happen to you too.